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LOVE IS OVERRATED

We often mistake lust for love and many people mistake infatuation for true love. So many people preach that if you are no longer happy in a marriage then you should just call it quits. How about telling people to remember what made them happy in the first place and work on getting back to that place. A man wakes up in the morning and tells his wife he wants a divorce because he has fallen in love with someone else even when children are involved.

The fact that you once proposed marriage to a person means you once considered her above every woman, how then do you discover years into the marriage that you love another? Especially after having kids. You probably have seen a slimmer woman or a pretty face or a sexy woman and concluded that you now have a new love. The desire for something new is not usually love but an attraction which can be classified as lust or infatuation. Any time you put your new flame above your children, then you know that you are deep in lust.

Sex is an integral part of marriage but marriage is beyond sex. You just can't bring children into this world and then abandon them just because of good sex. This is to all the fathers in their sixties still divorcing their wives and marrying younger women, claiming they are in love, you are not in love but in lust. At your age, you should have outgrown some banal instincts. A decent man at sixty is consolidating on the gains of his marriage with the wife of his youth. To all the young men who are in their second or third marriages, wouldn't it be just perfect if you can marry anyone of your fantasies and divorce when a new fantasy comes along?

What so many people call love is lust. The point when  you decide that you are willing to trade your marriage for a hot figure is the point when you have reached the highest point of irresponsibility.

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