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Make no mistake about it; Nigeria is like a very gigantic man who perhaps became large as a result of his nature. However, when such a person steps out, people mistake his huge nature for riches. The result is that you cannot tell whether he needs assistance or not because he may sometimes pretend to maintain what people think of him. 

This one goes out to my ladies: It is good to be an independent woman. In this 21st century, there is nothing more fulfilling to you as a woman than to know you can take care of your own bills. Men are not looking for a dependent woman and if at all a man marries a dependent woman, it would soon be a matter of time before he feels he is the only one bringing something to the table except you are as beautiful as Bianca and he married you as a trophy wife. Or he married you because of the sex(you are good in bed). Then he wouldn't mind footing all the bills provided he is loaded for a long time. It is good for a woman to have a skill, a source of income. A decent and responsible woman is resourceful and attractive because of her resourcefulness. I have been broke only once in my life and then I got a dose of the attitude of men. People who were my friends when the going was good that i actually thought would be interested in taking care of me would only send me N5000 when i told ...

The Department of State Security, DSS Judge’s raid has again brought up a new vista of understanding into the psychology of the some Nigerians. While everyone agrees that corruption is our society’s greatest evil which must be eliminated, many disagree on the method used in eradicating it. However, there is another group of people who feels that every successful person in Nigeria is a thief to some sorts; hence they do not bother about what methods used, so long as the big men are ruined (a kind of envy).

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Emotional abusers are often viewed as huge, ugly, fierce looking adults with no friends. In real life, they can be far sneakier.  No one but the abused child, will know the abuser. Weapons  of emotional child abuse do not rely on strength but on words. It does not include outright screaming. It includes  a pattern of intentional verbal or behavioral actions or lack of actions that convey to a child the message, they  are worthless, unloved, unwanted, endangered or of value only when needs should be met.

We just concluded the international day of the girl child celebration. As I watched the unfolding discussions on the girl child, I was touched but my again my mind was drawn to the man child. We need an international day of the boy child where we would be discussing issues affecting boys. Where we would discuss things like telling the boy child to be independent of sex. To see sex as a consummation of love in marriage and not as an end in itself.