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EMOTIONAL CHILD ABUSE

Emotional abusers are often viewed as huge, ugly, fierce looking adults with no friends. In real life, they can be far sneakier.  No one but the abused child, will know the abuser.
Weapons  of emotional child abuse do not rely on strength but on words. It does not include outright screaming. It includes  a pattern of intentional verbal or behavioral actions or lack of actions that convey to a child the message, they  are worthless, unloved, unwanted, endangered or of value only when needs should be met.

Types of Emotional child abuse. 

1. Silent treatment: Abusers punish their victims by refusing to speak to them or acknowledge their presence. 
The abuser loudly communicates their displeasure, frustration or disappointment through silence, till the child gives in and apologizes for what the abuser perceives as slight insults. 
It teaches the child never to speak against the parent or he or she will not be loved

2. Ranking children unnecessarily : Continually comparing the abused  child to his peer or siblings can be a disaster for the child. It can be for doing chores or better at school or character. The child never ranks high.

3. Ignoring : Parents ignore the significant events in the child's life. They ignore the children in general and refuse to discuss any interests that the child may have.
They seem bothered by the existence of the child. The abusive parents will cut short conversations, mock and treat the child as if, a nuisance.

4. Isolation : They keep the child away from family, peers and friends and make the child do excessive chores. He or she would be forced to constantly sacrifice his childhood for the sake of parents demands.

5. Scapegoating : It is a serious family dysfunctional problem with one family member being blamed for small things, picked on  and constantly put down.  One of the authority figures has made a decision that somebody in the family has to be the bad guy.

They look for something wrong(sometimes real, but often imagined) that was wrong. The child abuser would encourage through his or her actions to treat the abused badly.  The Scapegoat has no allies in the family.

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