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AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN

This one goes out to my ladies:
It is good to be an independent woman. In this 21st century, there is nothing more fulfilling to you as a woman than to know you can take care of your own bills.

Men are not looking for a dependent woman and if at all a man marries a dependent woman, it would soon be a matter of time before he feels he is the only one bringing something to the table except you are as beautiful as Bianca and he married you as a trophy wife. Or he married you because of the sex(you are good in bed). Then he wouldn't mind footing all the bills provided he is loaded for a long time.

It is good for a woman to have a skill, a source of income. A decent and responsible woman is resourceful and attractive because of her resourcefulness.

I have been broke only once in my life and then I got a dose of the attitude of men. People who were my friends when the going was good that i actually thought would be interested in taking care of me would only send me N5000 when i told them i needed money. That is if they do not even lend it to me. It was horrible. People who claimed they admired me had a problem with putting their money where their mouth was. I thought the moment I called I would have a lot of people rushing to help,for where, guys are stingy. And then they wonder why nobody wants to marry them.

Except you are romantically involved with a guy or you are giving him sex, he doesn't feel obliged to help you especially where money is concerned.

Girls be wise, have your own money. Learn a skill, start a business,  develop your career. It pays. Well this is so long as you are still single. After you get married, understand the man you are married to and know how to strategize.

Many men are not angels, damsels in distress don't appeal to them. A friend of mine was telling me that whatever a man gives you, he wants to collect back at the end of the day. So girls be wise!

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