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FOR THE LOVE OF NEIGHBOURS

Dear readers, 
A neighbor is a tenant living across from you in your vicinity. They come for activities if invited or shun you, gossiping behind your back is rather juicy, you see. A neighbor could be reserved or commonly talkative. Anyways, is it right to confide in your neighbors? 
The answer really, is No.

An exception could be made to cases where the neighbor could help the other medically.

Such cases include when a child is convulsive, epileptic and this can only be helpful when the neighbor is well versed in the treatment of such conditions, not because you want his or her help. 
> Other cases can involve when you need a cup of Garri or Maggi or water.
If it's not important then really! Why! What's a cup of garri that you got to collect from your neighbor that laziness pinned you from getting yourself via money.

You would be surprised how much, the number of times you collected garri could fill out a cup while they counted it for you in their secret rooms.

You could avoid a lot of humiliation not to mention trouble if you got all your needs on your own and reserved important things for neighbors.

Not all neighbors have good in their mind. But how would you realize that, when you are busy  getting acquainted with them to notice that they are gunning, for the destruction of your happy home. 
For example, the wellbeing of your child is very important. The emotional wellbeing.

Most parents confide the emotional wellbeing of their kids to their neighbors. It was not advertised by them that they had solutions so why carry your mirror to someone for great breaking!

It is psychological heartbreaking for a child to see that its neighbors knows it's problems. All parents sees are solutions. They don't see that they  have destroyed the child's right to privacy, made room for passive aggressiveness and caused paranoia and lack of trust for the parents .
The child will begin to look at the neighbors as some rescuer.  Little by little, such parents have taken away the  child's right to a successful, angry free life, without interference.

Parents rarely know this. Once that neighbor gets on the parents nerve do they begin to see how annoying he or she is.  Sadly, the  emotionally disturbed child has already paid the price. No one could readily forget such a sweet gist about the most envied neighbor.

Reports come flying in about bad behaviors of the child when not at home. A parent who knows themselves will believe such woes or not. If they know who they are, all the efforts of the nasty neighbor to destroy the home then, should be in vain.

On the long run the price is heavy and is seated solely on the parents because that problem child was after all, theirs.

The best thing to do in a house full of conflicts is to: 
1.confide in spiritual mentors, pastors, no diabolic attempts are necessary.

2. Love the child and give room to freely express his or her self.

3. If a particular child is emotional disturbed, something is not necessarily wrong but it could be an onset of a developing depression.

4. Forgive the child always and discipline the  child without the noise of neighbors. You can do it. You got it in you!

Enjoy!

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