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ON VIRGINITY AND FEELING SPECIAL

Girls are often advised by their parents, society and the church to keep their virginity till marriage which is supposed to be a good thing actually.
The problem with this advice is that a lot of people who heed it cannot tell the difference between being a virgin and being frigid.So they carry their virginity into marriage and become frigid afterwards. Being a virgin doesn't stop you from falling in love and having desires, it only stops you from experimenting with sex oftentimes with the wrong person. To wait till marriage is to trust God to bring the right person into your life when you are ready, usually somebody who is worth it.
You shouldn't feel a sense of loss when you loose your virginity to your husband instead you should feel a sense of accomplishment. The sense of accomplishment comes from knowing that you waited until your wedding night which is the normal thing. From then on you are supposed to have pleasurable sex with your husband with no inhibitions.

So many young girls have it all wrong, they think being a virgin makes them special which in fact it does, the problem is they stop feeling special after the wedding night which is when their specialness just got better. So sex with their husbands becomes a nightmare which shouldn't be.

Some girls have been brought up to think that sex is bad, so they do not enjoy the act with their spouses, leaving their spouses unfulfilled, they think being a virgin takes them to heaven. No wonder men are choosing bad girls over good girls, preferring to get married to immoral girls based on the fact that they are enjoying themselves. Sex is an integral part of marriage, nobody tells the young girls that. So much so that a marriage can be dissolved in the court of law if it has not been consummated. So girls have fun. Live life to the fullest with your spouses.

However, there is a difference between a man who wants pleasure with his wife and one who wants you to be a prostitute. That is why you must talk about sex and agree on certain things before marriage. You should marry someone who shares your values. There is no point marrying someone who wants abominable things in the name of good sex.

Finally, sex should be sacred. You shouldn't share what's happening on your marriage bed with just anyone except there is a problem. Young girls feel free to aspire to a good marriage with a healthy sex life. Go on then and soar...
Ukwuoma

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