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POLYGAMY

Isn't it funny how society differentiates between monogamy and polygamy and still accepts polygamy?
Children from polygamous homes are looked down on yet society does not stop or restrain a man from marrying a second wife. Such ceremonies are even celebrated with a lot of the man's family members and friends in attendance.

But why is polygamy still practiced in our society and why are men bringing in strangers to share in the commonwealth of their homes?
We claim that men love sex but I see it that maybe a man that indulges in polygamy lacks understanding:

Where was the second woman when you were struggling and who supported you and cheered you on to victory?

Now that things have gotten better, you want another woman to reap where she didn't sow.
Why would you put your children in that situation, to see their father living with another woman in their house?

Do you know the psychological effect it has on those children or the shame they have to live with especially for growing children?

Is that love for sex worth sacrificing your entire family?

Another school of thought has it that some women use jazz on men they perceive as being rich in order to get them to marry them because of the money of course. That is why marriage is more spiritual than physical. Every wife that loves her husband is therefore called to be a praying wife.

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